LGBT Living Inquiries Facilitators

LGBT Living Inquiries Facilitators

Meet the Facilitators. I’m happy to introduce you to the LGBT Living Inquiries Facilitators.  These facilitators are trained in the Living Inquiries, which are the tools you see featured on this page, “Unfinding Identities.”  Each of them are highly skilled and each are LGBT.  You can bring anything to these facilitators and they can help you undo the Velcro Effect in it, including deficiency stories (e.g., “I’m unlovable,” “I’m unacceptable,” “I’m not safe”), beliefs around homophobia, sexuality, and gender, issues around sex addiction or other addictions, fear or anxiety-producing thoughts, and even LGBT identities themselves.  Any of these can create suffering when there is a strong identification with them.  These facilitators use the tools in my book, “Living Relationship,” found at www.livingrelationship.org and “Natural Rest for Addiction” (coming soon).       Sabin Epstein Sabinreese@hotmail.com “For me, the Living Inquiries are a way of looking–at identity, concepts, objects and seeing –and feeling–through my assumptions and long held beliefs of what I thought I knew to be true about me, about my world, about what lies ahead in the future. The sense of separateness, “otherness,” the belief that “there’s something wrong with me” have been evaporating with LI.  They’re just thoughts attached to energy–and I can’t find any of those identites when I truly stop, rest and look.  When a sensation arises “telling” me I’m in danger, I can’t trust or I’m not safe, I’m aware that it’s energy I’m experiencing, not “reality.” Images from the past–being bullied, rejected, criticized, condemned–are now images and not “reality.”  I experience my life with greater presence and greater awareness–and its on-going.  There’s no “there” to get to–just emotions, sensations, feeling & energy velcroed to words and images waiting to be questioned.   Lisa Meuser llmeuser@me.com www.integrativehealingnow.com Lisa is a certified Living Inquires Facilitator as well as a somatic therapist. She invites others from the LGBT community to explore her web site and contact her if they are inspired to look into their own deficiency stories, beliefs, and/or release past trauma.   “These days, my sexual preference of bisexual feels neutral- not good or bad, but instead simply what is.  Doing inquiry helped me see through old or lingering identities/belief systems that I had attached to the idea of sexuality. Ultimately, it has allowed me to experience sexual freedom- to be who I am,...

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Gaining and Losing My Identity – Lisa’s Story

Gaining and Losing My Identity – Lisa’s Story

It took a long time for me to realize I was bisexual.  I knew what being gay was, but it was always seen as such a bad thing in my family that I never let myself consider that I might actually be gay, be “that” person.  I’d had a very close friend in high school, and we’d pretend to be lesbians.  But it was in play, and I never thought that the intense love I had for her was anything out of the ordinary or would put me in the “gay” category.  It took my best friend from University moving away to realize that I’d been in love with her.   And even then I didn’t step into acceptance that I might be sexually attracted to the same sex-that the heart yearning I had felt for her might indicate something more than having a really close friend.  I wasn’t very connected to my body in a lot of ways, especially my sexuality, and I wonder if that was part of the disconnect.  It might just be a coincidence, but around the time I’d started doing body/chakra energy work was when I realized I was bisexual. Read More I started noticing physical responses to women, excitability, which was almost a bit painful, and certainly uncomfortable, as if I was being born into a new world. I was confused at the physical sensations and sexual yearning. I was new to the city where I was living, and I didn’t have anyone to connect with as this was happening. I also didn’t have anyone in my life that I was interested in exploring these yearnings with, so it was pretty theoretical for a while, and I had a lot of conflicting thoughts and imagined possibilities flowing through my mind and body. I could literally feel the identities and certainties I’d had being thrown up into the air and new ones forming. After watching some lgbt movies, I started to realize how convoluted the whole bisexual thing was. I learned that bisexuals didn’t fit into either group- they weren’t in the homosexual group, and they weren’t in the straight group, and quite often they weren’t accepted by either. It would be taboo for me to be in the straight group, because I was interested in the same gender, and it would be taboo for me in the homosexual group, because I was interested in the opposite gender. As I met people and started to engage socially, I started to form two identities, depending on whichever group I was with. So when I was hanging out with my straight friends, I’d be straight. And when I was with my lesbian or gay friends, I’d be...

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Anti-Gay Church Leader May be Gay

Anti-Gay Church Leader May be Gay

Is this gay-hater gay? On this site, we share about the benefit of waking up out of our LGBT identities and seeing that these identities are only conventional designations, not ultimately who we are.  But coming out can be such an important part of our lives.  This usually happens before we wake up.  Coming out is its own awakening.  Denying our sexual attraction can result in not only self-judgment but also negative attitudes, or even hate, for those in the LGBT community.  Fred Phelps is a member of the Westboro Baptist Church, whose main mission is to persecute homosexuals.  But . . . is he gay?  Oh, the painful irony if so.  Identity has a way of hurting us in ways we can’t always see until we take a closer look.  Here’s an article from Huffington Post  [Read...

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Jacob – Waking Up Before Coming Out

Jacob – Waking Up Before Coming Out

From the start of what dawned as the life of Jacob I realized that I was simply different then the majority of society. It took me many years to realize the fact that I was “different.”  I grew up in a christian household with strict moral understandingof how things should be, and how I should live my life going forward. As you can imagine it was the story of work hard, go to college, marry a woman and live a happy life that I was chasing after. You know, the christian way to a pleasing life for God. Childhood was difficult and nothing was ever consistent and with the divorce of my parents I felt I had no identity in this world. So I put all of my efforts into sports, and avoiding the fact that I was ‘different’.  I always knew I was gay somewhere deep within, but I avoided it with every mechanism of my body.  It was so obvious even at the age of 5-7. I remember how I used to always stand with my hip out to the side like most women do. But I knew that wasn’t the ‘manly’ image so I learned to change those habits right away. I was always trying so hard to just fit into the society, to the conditioning of what I was told I should be. These images haunted me for many years. Actually they haunted me all the way until I was almost 20 years old.  Read More The shift and the transformation happened after I had an awakening to Life as it is beyond my conditioning. As I was sitting in my bed during a hurricane, with an Indian Saints book on my phone, I realized that my whole life as Jacob was a construction of something that wasn’t absolutely REAL. In that instance, the shift from personality-conditioning to being in touch with my presence exchanged. But even after this explosive and destructive hit to my sense of Jacob I still didn’t come to terms with the fact that I was gay. In fact in those moments after that experience I was more in the peace and wonder of the unknown quality of life. Free from any labels that I placed on my experience. Months after that happened I stayed with what I had intuitively felt and experienced – everything from that silent place. Insights where coming through often and I was seeing everything I was not. And with that seeing, spontaneously, freedom was being experienced and felt more and more relatively. The dreams I once had of being a baseball player and such fell away as I hurt my arm and saw that my happiness...

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Freddie Mercury – Sex and Impermanence

Freddie Mercury – Sex and Impermanence

Sex and Impermanence – Freddie Mercury.  I love Freddie Mercury for his brilliant music obviously.  His life and personality reflected the impermanence of things and the emptiness of identity.  Freddie wasn’t about categories and didn’t believe that what he did in bed reflected who he was.  For him, his songs were temporary creations “to be used to let stuff out and then thrown away.”  Read this interview on Mediasearch with Freddie’s...

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